8.04.2013

Muslim code of behaviour



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According to Islamic teachings, apart from having the right belief how important is it for a person to do good deeds? Doing good and having the right belief go hand in hand in Islam. In fact, doing good in practice is the proof of having the right belief in the heart. This is why the Holy Quran speaks of true Muslims very often as "those who believe and do good deeds". Both the Quran and the Holy Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) have told Muslims that the best among them is that person who shows the best behaviour towards other people.

Can you imagine a Muslim who prays 5 times a day, fasts in Ramadan, gives Charity but when he comes with his friends he slanders and backbites, beats his wife, is disrespectful to his parents and elders, hurts and slaps his children, is dishonest in his trade and uses abusive language to people he meets!! Hence, having Imaan is good but having good behavior along with Imaan is very important.

Presenting below are a list of some of the good qualities a Muslim must try to acquire. The chief qualities a Muslim should display:

1. Truthfulness: "O you who believe! keep your duty to Allah and speak straight, true words." (Holy Quran 33:70) "O you who believe, keep your duty to Allah, and be with the truthful people." (9:119)"Be maintainers of justice and bearers of true witness for Allah, even if it (the truth) goes against your own selves or parents or relatives or someone who is rich or poor." (4:135)
In fact, the sign of a hypocrite is that whenever he speaks, he lies. We must speak the truth. Muslim shopkeepers must never hide the fault of the product they are selling and tell the truth about it before selling.

2. Sincerity: "Serve Allah, being sincere to Him in obedience." (39:2) "It is most hateful in the sight of Allah that you say things which you do not do." (61:3) "Woe to those who pray but are unmindful of their prayers, who do good to be seen." (107:4-6) 

3. Unselfishness: "You cannot attain to righteousness unless you spend (in charity) out of those things which you love." (3:91)"They (the true believers) give food, out of love for Allah, to the poor, the orphan and the slave, saying: We feed you only for Allah's pleasure - we desire from you neither reward nor thanks." (76:8-9)"Do no favour seeking gain." (74:6)

4. Humility: "The servants of the Beneficent (Allah) are those who walk on the earth in humility." (25:63) "Do not turn your face away from people in contempt, nor go about in the land exultingly." (31:18)"Do not ascribe purity to yourselves. Allah knows best who is righteous." (53:32)
Hence, no pride, no arrogance in our hearts. Be kind to people and never show arrogance to people who work under you or whom have not been as much blessed as you are, for eg. The less educated ones, or the poor ones or those who work in lower position.

5. Patience: "Allah loves those who are patient." (3:145)"Give good news to the patient, who, when a misfortune befalls them, say: We are Allah's and to Him do we return." (2:155-156) 

6. Forgiveness: "Pardon (people) and overlook (their faults). Don't you love that Allah should forgive you." (24:22) "(The dutiful are) . . . those who restrain their anger and pardon people. Allah loves those who do good to others." (3:134)"Whenever they (true believers) are angry they forgive." (42:37)"The recompense of evil is punishment like it. But whoever forgives (an evil committed against himself) and amends (matters), his reward is with Allah. . . . Whoever is patient and forgives, that is a matter of great resolution." (42:40, 43)When the Holy Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam defeated his enemies in Makka and returned to that city as its conqueror, he forgave them in the following words:"No reproof be against you this day; Allah may forgive you, and He is the most Merciful of those who show mercy." (12:92) 

7. Purity and cleanliness:"He indeed is successful who purifies himself (in mind and body), and remembers the name of his Lord, then prays." (87:14-15) "Purify your garments and shun uncleanness." (74:4-5) 

8. Honesty:"Don't go near the property of an orphan, except in a goodly way, till he attains maturity. And fulfil the promise (you make) . . .. Give full measure when you measure out, and weigh with a true balance." (17:34-35)"Do not swallow up your property among yourselves by false means, nor offer it as a bribe to the officials so that you may swallow up other people's property unlawfully while you know." (2:188)

9. Goodness and kindness to others: "Allah commands you to uphold justice and to do good to others and to give to the relatives." (16:90) Three degrees of doing good are mentioned here: "justice," which means returning any good that someone has done you with equal good; "do good to others," which means taking the initiative in doing good to others; and "give to the relatives," which means doing good to people instinctively and naturally just as one does good to one's close relatives."Do good to others, surely Allah loves those who do good to others." (2:195)
One of the easy ways you can do this is that when you prepare some food or sweets at your home, distribute it among your relatives and your neighbours. This wll have two benefits: it will remove pride from your heart and also spread love amongst you. Also invite your relatives for tea or dinner and have a chat with them. This will relieve your stress and you can help each other at the time of difficulties.

10. Consideration and respect for others:"O you who believe! do not enter houses other than your own until you have asked permission and greeted the inmates . . . and if it is said to you, 'Go back', then go back." (24:27-28) "O you who believe! avoid most of suspicion (against others), for surely suspicion in some cases is sin; and do not spy (into other people's affairs), nor let some of you backbite others." (49:12)"When you are greeted with a greeting, greet with one better than it, or return it (in the same terms at least)." (4:86) 
So if someone gets you a news which you not heard of, verify it, before spreading it amongst people. Do not be suspicious, instead verify. Respect others as much as you want to get respected.

11. Courage: Speaking of a small number of Muslims facing a big and powerful enemy, the Quran relates:"Those to whom men said: people have gathered against you, so fear them; but this increased their faith, and they said: Allah is sufficient for us and He is an excellent Guardian." (3:173)

12. Moderation: "Eat and drink, but do not be immoderate." (7:31)"Do not chain your hand to your neck (so that you are mean in spending), nor stretch it out to the utmost limit (so that you waste everything)." (17:29) Regarding the performance of religious duties, the Holy Prophet has given the following advice:"Religion is easy, but any one who exerts himself too much in religious devotions will get overcome by it; so you should just act rightly, and keep to the mean, and be of good cheer, and ask for Allah's help morning, evening, and a part of the night." (Bukhari.)
How many times, in parties, we take too many things in our plate and after some time, we are unable to eat and the food is still remaining in the plate. It goes waste! So be moderate.

13. Cheerfulness: "Be of good cheer." (Holy Prophet in Bukhari.) "It is an act of charity to meet your fellow with a cheerful face." (Holy Prophet in Mishkat.) Finally, we give a verse of the Holy Quran mentioning a number of qualities a Muslim, man or woman, should try to acquire:"The truthful men and the truthful women, the patient men and the patient women, the humble men and the humble women, the charitable men and the charitable women, the fasting men and the fasting women, the men who guard their chastity and the women who guard their chastity, the men who remember Allah much and the women who remember Allah much - for all these Allah has prepared forgiveness and a great reward." (33:35)
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With Best Wishes